Gary was born in Brooklyn and moved with his family to Long Island. The oldest of four children, he attended St. Anne's School in Garden City. Following his high school years at St Albert's Jr. Seminary on Middletown, NY, Gary entered the Carmelite Order.
He was awarded four degrees -- BA in history from Marquette University, MA in education from the University of Notre Dame, MA in theology from the Washington Theological Union and a Doctor of Ministry from The Catholic University of America.
He worked in campus ministry, retreat work, directed the Seminary and the Novitiate before being elected Prior Provincial.
Following Gary's time in leadership he took a sabbatical which was transformative ultimately leading to a new direction in his life.
From Church he went to State joining The Commission on Quality of Care and Advocacy for Persons with Disabilities. For more than 10 years, he headed the agency which oversaw the mental hygiene system in NYS.
In 2009, he was one of the founders of the Suicide Prevention Center of New York. Retiring in 2015, he continues to do a variety of suicide prevention trainings and to serve on boards.